I thought things got easier when the children grow up but in fact it gets complicated in a completely different way. You still see them as babies, yet their not, which makes giving them freedom difficult and knowing how much freedom to give them is also a difficult decision.
Honestly, I have no idea. But I figure the best option is to judge what’s right for that particular child. My son is naive and not particularly street wise so every year I give him just a little more freedom, I know eventually he’ll get there and I will have to let go.
It is one of the most difficult things, having to except that they want independence. The first step I took was getting him a mobile phone to use when visiting his dad and to play games. The Alcatel Pop phone is reasonably priced and you can set limits so as you never to spend too much.
Many of my son’s friends are allowed to walk around the streets to knock for one another but I don’t live in an area where there’s a park nearby instead there is a busy road. This makes it difficult to allow a certain amount of freedom. When I was a young girl our house backed onto a field so I could play out quiet safely with my mum watching from the garden. Instead I arrange for friends to visit and occasionally a day out.
The next step to independence is a couple of nights away! Next year the school have arranged a trip for 3 nights and my son wants to go, in fact he’s really excited. I know that my friends still remember when they went away with the school and they had a fab time – however I did not like staying away from home so I didn’t go. He’s definitely going but it’s extremely nerve racking for me as a mother. I know he’ll have a great time and it will be a good experience for him.
I’m not really looking for any advice but it would be nice to know that other parents are experiencing the same issues.